"Just Be You" ~ You, Me, Life, Dreams
It is amazing how people will try everything to please a partner that they want. They will do things they don't like, they will eat something they don't want, they will dress in a way they wouldn't normally. People will do almost anything and try almost everything.
So many times I have heard people tell me that they are trying everything to be what their partner wants; and all they really want is for their partner to like them for who they are. The irony, is that they are not being who they really are; because they are too busy trying everything to get their partner to like them.
If a relationship is going to last, it requires authenticity and sincerity. An impression or image can only be held for so long. Most cannot go more than 1-3 months before their true traits start coming through.
So many people fear someone leaving them if they are themselves; however, if they are going to run because you are who you are, then they are not the person for you and they are not going to be the person that sees you through life year after year. Being ourselves, can sometimes be the biggest fear we face.
I think this has been one of my blessings as I age; is that I am not really concerned with being anything else, or living up to an image. If someone were to love me, they would love me for that. So I think one of the big keys is to simply be you. That will be the best way to find out if someone is truly interested in you. If you find yourself making all kinds of accommodations or in the pleasing mode - doing things because they like it; it will be hard for the relationship to continue year after year.
So, if you are ever wondering if someone likes you; just be you, and see how they respond to that.