"The Celebrity" ~ You, Me, Life, Dreams ~
One of the things that I look at in my book on relationships; are personality types. There really are no "right" or "wrong" in this aspect; just simply awareness of what you are dealing with. It is about helping you be aware of what you are dealing with, so that you can decide if that is what you are really wanting or not.
This personality type is larger than life; and they love being the center of attention. They love feeling like they know what is "in" and what people want; and they want people to want to be like them, yet not trespass on their territory. There is a strong need to be validated; and a strong focus on material possessions and appearances. These people, however, have a great sense for what works in different situations; and how to draw all the attention you can handle, and achieve material successes.
As with all personality types - there are deeper aspects that are going on. When we look at this personality type, they really show where a great deal of people are at in our world. Many are on this pattern and don't even realize it.
These people, have strong insecurities; and constantly seek affirmation from the outer world. Often times this comes from a disconnect from the inner world, or a struggle with being their own authentic self. This personality type often times is not willing or comfortable focusing on them selves; and this is disguised by appearing to be extremely self focused. However, narcissism is not the same as being self aware.
The pattern of this personality type is where many find themselves; constantly trying to satiate the outer world, gain acceptance, not feeling worthy, trying to control things, feeling unfulfilled, using what is "popular" to "fit in" and be "ok" in the world. In reality, these are people that are forcing themselves to be something that they are not and often times run in bi-polar patterns of elation, depression, and not finding fulfillment or satisfaction in either space of being.
This personality pattern works great if you are looking to live a material and superficial experience. If you are a person that wants to become a master manipulator; or even want to excel big in business and financial realms, then these people will know how to get you there.
However, if you are a person that is seeking a more spiritual path, quiet times, and doing inner work; you are likely to struggle with this personality type. To be with a person like this when you are on a spiritual path; will bring a lot of conflict in all forms into your life. You are likely to feel exhausted after being around them; and even when you aren't around them, if you are keeping them active in your life.
You will know that you are dealing with this type of person early on through some simple basics. Do they always go for the most expensive or showy thing? Do they go for what is "in" or what they have heard is the thing to have? Do they frequently talk about their acquisitions and accomplishments? Do they have to show you every purchase they make; and every piece of gossip that they have heard? Will they go for something that costs $300 even when they can get the same thing from a non-name designer for $30? Do they pay more attention to what is happening with everyone else?
Each personality type has it blessings and challenges; and even spiritual people can benefit from the material based personality types if they are willing to take the basics of those personalities, and transform them to the spiritual aspect.