Sheila Rubin LMFT, RDT/BCT

Sheila Rubin

Sheila Rubin, a master therapist with over 30 years of experience, is an internationally sought-after keynote speaker, author, teacher, and director. Sheila is a leading authority on Healing Shame and co-created the Healing Shame – Lyon/Rubin method. She has delivered talks, presentations and workshops across the country and around the world, at conferences from Canada to Romania, for over 30 years. Sheila is a Board Certified Trainer through NADTA and has served as adjunct faculty at JFK University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. Her expertise, teaching, and writing contributions have been featured in numerous publications, including six books. Sheila has developed therapy techniques integrating somatic and expressive modalities to work with the all-pervasive shame and trauma that underlie eating disorders, addictions and toxic family dynamics. She offers therapy through her private practice in Berkeley and San Francisco, and also offers consultation to therapists over Skype.

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Articles Sheila has Published
Can Imagination Heal Shame?
Can Imagination Heal Shame?

Once I was working with a woman who was feeling very lost in her life. She wasn't sure if she even wanted to start a new job or a new relationship. I asked her what her picture was when she imagined getting »

Once I was working with a woman who was feeling very lost in her life. She wasn't sure if she even wanted to start a new job or a new relationship. I asked her what her picture was when she imagined getting a new job, and all she could picture was what happened in her last job: her co-worker and even her supervisor putting her down. I asked her what picture she imagined when she thought about a new..

Sheila Rubin · May 9th, 2017

Sheila Rubin · May 9th, 2017

How Naming What’s Happening Can Help Your Relationship
How Naming What’s Happening Can Help Your Relationship

Often I notice that in the back and forth of the day to day, we can lose ourselves in one thing after another. Sometimes when we can put a name on to something that's happening and pause, it can allow »

Often I notice that in the back and forth of the day to day, we can lose ourselves in one thing after another. Sometimes when we can put a name on to something that's happening and pause, it can allow us to stop and be in the moment in a more embodied way. Let me give you a few examples. A couple from my practice told me how one day in the middle of their usual argument about who was going to pick..

Sheila Rubin · September 9th, 2016

Sheila Rubin · September 9th, 2016

Phone in the Way of Your Relationship?
Phone in the Way of Your Relationship?

I had a client a few years ago who called me very upset because his wife had thrown his Blackberry out the window. You might be surprised, but attachment injuries can be caused by an electronic device! »

I had a client a few years ago who called me very upset because his wife had thrown his Blackberry out the window. You might be surprised, but attachment injuries can be caused by an electronic device! Nowadays many kids as well as adults are texting or even talking on their cell phones during dinner, if they even eat dinner together. Often spouses are texting or talking on their phones while they're..

Sheila Rubin · August 3rd, 2016

Sheila Rubin · August 3rd, 2016

How Can Shame Be Healthy?
How Can Shame Be Healthy?

The emotion of shame can be very uncomfortable, even painful. It is an emotion that many of us aren't even consciously aware of when we're feeling it. It's often invisible. What we do see may be our reactions »

The emotion of shame can be very uncomfortable, even painful. It is an emotion that many of us aren't even consciously aware of when we're feeling it. It's often invisible. What we do see may be our reactions to shame. People tend to react to shame in one of four ways, according to Donald L. Nathanson (Shame and Pride, 1992): 1. Attack self 2. Attack other 3. Withdraw 4. Deny Here's an example from..

Sheila Rubin · July 15th, 2016

Sheila Rubin · July 15th, 2016