"...offer a space of safety..." ~ Activating Compassion ~
Judgment can certainly drag us into all kinds of distortions and unpleasant spaces. However, it is important that we determine when someone is living in a pattern of judging or being judged; and when it is just a one time mishap or brief phase that someone is in unintentionally. When we feel judged, we have a tendency to become uncomfortable around others; and our anxiety levels go up. When this happens, it is very hard for someone to be themselves; and thus they will tend to make more mishaps, or say something that they don't mean or simply doesn't come out right.
The reality is, that when we take the time to get to know people and let others get to know us; we are able to move out of the judgment spaces. A big key to getting into knowing someone's real self is to offer up a space of safety. When we keep a space of safety, others are able to be themselves. A space of safety is about allowing people to be who they truly are and accept them for that, without trying to change them.
So much of society is designed around images, and having to fit into certain perceptions and presenting ourselves certain ways. This type of space is designed to trigger and increase our inadequacies; because in reality we can never really meet the standards of others. In reality, this becomes about control and conformity; and that is simply not a part of truth and our real self. When we go into those spaces with others, we enter victim patterns that leave us unable to stand in our real self.
I have learned over time, that providing a space of safety for others; often allows them to work past anything that is awkward. When they are no longer judged, and no longer fear making a mishap, and feel they don't have to be "perfect" 100% of the time; they are able to find an ease and peace. It is from that space, that they will often find a comfort zone within themselves, and gain the confidence to make any shifts and changes that help them maneuver through life more peacefully. It gives them the space to figure out how to embrace their own gifts and skills; and to stand in that true self, outside of the space of safety.
I hope that you too, can offer this up to others. It is truly one of the greatest offerings that we can make in this world. Many pets naturally offer us this space; and that is why we tend to create such a deep love for them. Now, it is time for us to offer it with each other; and throughout all areas of our life.