Last year on the Fourth of July we were in another country.
We asked a close friend to stay there to watch our pups since we were unable to take them with us. He told us upon our return that it was his best Fourth of July ever. Not just because he had free reign of the home (he lives in a small apartment 200 miles away), and got to snuggle with the puppies: it was because, he said, we have the best view of the fireworks from our front porch that he has ever seen. It was a party of one and he had a blast.
So this year, we decided to see for ourselves.
During the lead-up to the display, we served appetizers, drinks and dinner, and played lots of ping pong. When it was time for the fireworks, we all gathered on the front porch to watch. He was right. Our view was front and center. It felt like Disneyland, albeit at a distance. It was the best fireworks display ever; all from the comfort of our own home to enjoy with friends old and new.
Later in the evening, I was showing one of our guests where he was going to sleep, and left him to plug in the queen sized air mattress and make up his cozy bed. BTW, air mattresses have come a long way. I think I could replace my regular bed with one and be perfectly content.
On my way back downstairs to join the group, I was stopped by the husband of a newer friend. He looked to be in his mid-40s. I didn't really know him, but he had questions for me anyway.
"I heard you are an Author and that you have helped people find their dream jobs for years. I have some questions."
OK. Maybe not the ideal setting, but I am always up to lend an ear and help when and where I can.
"Sure. Tell me about your path so far," I offered.
He went on to tell me how he used to work in Hollywood and had written for several studios. Screenplays were his forte. But then entertainment hiring got thin and there was that 2008 market fall out. Now he helps his wife with real estate.
"Do you like what you are doing?"
"Oh sure; it's fine."
Hmm. When someone says fine, my ears perk up. Fine is not happy. Fine is not joy. Fine is status quo, boredom or putting up with what one thinks they have to in order to pay the mortgage, credit cards, living expenses and lifestyle.
"One." Big smile. "She is in finance at a top University and working this summer for a finance company." He seemed excited that she was on a path that could actually lead somewhere.
"That's great," I replied. "The Millennials find what they love and go after it."
"What about you?" Are you doing what you love?
That's when he leaned in and lowered his voice, as though about to confess at church.
"I don't want to do what I'm doing now. I want to get back to entertainment. When I wrote screenplays, I lost track of time. I want to lose track of time again."
I totally get that.
I coach job seekers everyday about that very issue. The flow, the zone, the passion, the fun.
Unfortunately, this new friend's generation left fun behind when they got responsible and many are looking for it again.
"You need to read my newest book," I told him. I pulled out an advanced copy, signed it and gave it to him.
"I'll pay you for it," he said.
"No," I replied. You need to read this now. It will show you how people just like you made huge shifts in their lives in order to find meaning and happiness in their work and life.
It made me happy to see the excitement on his face as I handed the book to him.
And then he said....
"You know. I listen to podcasts from amazing speakers and life coaches. They are all inspiring. But then I get up the next morning and I say to myself - how do I do it?" What are the steps? I need to know how.
Well, there's no moment like the unexpected. We were meant to visit in that hallway on the Fourth of July and I was meant to help this man find a path to the answers he sought.
I went through the FREEDOM SHIFT process with him, which included an assignment.
Go home and think about when you were a kid. Think about all the fun things that you loved. Really think about it. You played a lot as a kid - unsupervised time filled with curiosity, self discovery, inspiration and passion. And then I told him that we'd meet next week to work through potential jobs that fit his true desire (which, I told him, he already knew deep inside).
I can't wait to see what he comes up with.
If you are in the midst of a life shift, start with the book and be sure to visit my website for upcoming courses in the Dream Job Academy section that will help you identify your dream job - and help you get it.
Here's to your shift bringing you lasting meaning and happiness in your work and life.
- Jody B. Miller
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About Jody: Career and Life Coach Jody B. Miller is author of the new book "From DRIFT to SHIFT: How Change Can Bring True Meaning and Happiness to Your Work and Life." Jody is known as the "The Work Happiness Expert." As CEO of C2C Executive Search & Strategic Management, Jody has helped thousands of people find true meaning in their work and in their lives. Jody's previous positions include investment banker, strategic consultant to Fortune 100 Corporations, CEO of a software start-up, assistant producer for a PBS television series, and sales & marketing executive for CBS Television. She is also the author of "HIRED! in 2017" and "Hired! Expert Advice from A Leading Wall Street Recruiter." These books provide roadmaps for getting hired in today's competitive job world. Jody contributes to Ignites Financial Times Magazine, LinkedIn, Entrepreneur, CEO Magazine and The Huffington Post. She has written numerous articles about job satisfaction, work/life balance and finding meaning and is interviewed often about the topic. Her books are and will be available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble and iBooks.