Don’t Let Fear Scare You: Go After It!

Don’t Let Fear Scare You: Go After It!

written by: Maria Erving
by: Maria Erving
Fear Fear

If you are overwhelmed with fear, do this:

Turn towards it and say something like "Okay, 'fear', let's look at you! Let's see what is so scary about you", and I promise that what you discover will set you free from it.

Don't allow yourself to be pulled into fear, worry, anger, imaginary conclusions, and drama.

Instead, confront it! Stop the stream of fearful thoughts and turn towards it and say:

"Okay, let's look at this. Let's look at where the fear comes from and if it's really valid".

An example could be that worry about money comes up.

In that case, write down the story you have about it.

There is always a story connected to the fear, and with the story, the mind-made drama escalates.

Pictures of doom and gloom starts to bombard you and very quickly everything about it gets blown up way out of proportion and causes you stress and anxiety and makes you a nervous, frightened, worried wreck.

If you recognize yourself in this description, then do this: Don't run away from the fear but move towards it.

"Let me look closely at you FEAR, let me see what is so scary about you!"

Turn around and face your fear. Look it in the eye.

Do this now with whatever fear you might have.

Take a pen and a notebook and write your fear down.

For example;

"I'm afraid I will not be able to pay rent this month".

"I'm afraid my partner will leave me".

Or any other fear you have. Write it down.

Next, write down the fearful story your ego has made up about it.

What's the story around your fear?

It could be for example:

"I will become homeless and live on the streets", or "I will never find anyone else, I will be alone for the rest of my life" and so on.

Now get back to Reality.

Where are you now?

Probably sitting in your kitchen drinking coffee and all is well, right?

Yes, you have rent to pay, that's a fact, but the fearful story is not a fact, it's a story and you don't have to believe it just because it's thrown at you by your ego.

Now write down at least 5 other kinds of scenarios that could happen.

See that they are only different stories, just as the one you chose to believe in and that threw you into anxiety and fear.

But they too are merely stories, nothing more than that.

What five other stories could you make up in your mind?

Write down at least five different stories.

When you do this you will come to realize that every scenario is a merely a probability (and they are countless!), so ask yourself why you chose to believe the worst case scenario?

When there are so many other perspectives you can have to the same situation!

Fear and worry comes from believing in one perspective over another but the fact remains neutral and completely unaffected by your thoughts about it.

This exercise will expose your ego and the more aware you become of it, the less it will bother you because you've come to see through it.

Dissect your fears.

Fear is a story in your mind and not real.

The ego always operates from a base of fear and by honing in on one single imagination it throws at you, you block the other (more positive) ones out because of the fear it creates in you.

But when you open up to all the other possibilities and probabilities that are available to you then you're able to handle any challenges in a much better and healthier (and peaceful) way.

Don't believe in any of the alternatives or probabilities, but remain open; don't get stuck in any one single perspective even if it's a good one (aka "positive").

To take this even further I would say 'don't believe anything your mind throws at you'.

Instead, stay detached and free in your mind, because there are so many other ways things can go that you have no clue about at this moment!

So stay open and receptive.

Don't believe in anything but your own ability to handle the way life unfolds in any given moment.

In essence you're feeding the fear by believing in it but once you stop feeding it it will begin to subside.

Then the ego voice subsides and gets quieter and quieter and can you remain in perfect peace in all situations, even through challenging and trying times in your life.