What do you do when your expectations don't get met? When you have a big idea of how a situation or event will flow, and then everything goes sideways? Up to a point, I know that I can go with the flow, adapt quickly to change and generally have an attitude of flexibility if something doesn't unfold the way I thought it would. I firmly believe that all things happen for a reason and on purpose; that each event and interaction in my life has meaning, often beyond what may seem obvious. In my work, I help my clients form new relationships with their life's stories, healing the parts of how they are telling their story that no longer supports their higher good or life purpose. When they see their life events as having meaning, reason and purpose, they can move out of victim and into empowerment.
In the past, my ability to simply go with the flow and adapt, improvise or overcome – to quote the unofficial motto of the US Marines, has helped me to be in the energy of receptivity – ready to receive the lessons and learnings that my higher self and the universe have for me. One of my favourite sayings is, "This, or something better.", which allows me to step aside from whatever my preconceived notions are of how something should be and opens me up to what something could be.
There's a pitfall, however, one that I have fallen into so many times that it's become an unhealthy pattern which I'm ready to release. When I allow myself to get caught up in another person's enthusiasm for the work I do, and promises are given as to an outcome, which is then not realized, I fall into disappointment, regret and self-recrimination for allowing this to happen yet again. How can I break this pattern? By showing up in a new way for myself and the work that I do. With this in mind, I've experienced a profound ah-ha moment; a new way to change an old pattern. I asked myself, how many times, consciously or unconsciously, have I let someone else down and not lived up their expectations of myself and my offerings? I'm not coming from a self-blame direction with this question but more of an inquiry into self-awareness. When the same pattern shows up again and again, I believe that someone is trying to get my attention; my Higher Self, Spirit, the Universe – whomever! In my self-awareness there is healing and forgiveness.
And so, I release from all time, backwards, forwards and in the present, where I have knowingly or unknowingly, let someone down, not kept my promise or stepped away from my responsibility to a given outcome. This is a powerful statement of the intention to release and complete karmic agreements with others, make amends for my own unrealized short-comings and to learn a new way to flow with the go!