Jealousy is a passion that causes pain. Jealousy happens if our darling loves another guy, then we feel worthless. Or if another body gets the promotion that we desire. Jealousy is a part of our ego.
We should not support our jealousy. Why? If we support jealousy instead of punishing the jealousy, it will grow.
The reason number one for homicide in Thailand is Jealousy!!! Because the Thai society is not punishing Jealousy.
For the Gita and Srimad Bhagavatam is Jealousy the worst sentiment!
I was grown up in a big family, and we had to share. Imagine within 3 years my mother got two twins and one single. There was no option to be jealous because we got severe punishment for that. A big family, cannot afford jealousy.
What can we do, to overcome Jealousy?
We speak over our Jealousy to everybody, so that we lose the attachment of our Jealousy.
We never want that other people are caring for our Jealousy. We do the opposite. I had a jealous girlfriend, and I was provoking her with her Jealousy again and again until she let go her Jealousy.
For instance, she was phoning me, and asked where I am? I replied, I am in a Nightclub and have a fantastic time with the girls there. Or she was coming home I pretended that another girl is still there. It was always so funny!
What to do, when we are getting jealous?
First, we recognize our Jealousy. We know how bad this emotion will affect us and we don't want that other person to suffer under our jealousy.
We breathe deeply in that jealousy and release that feeling when we exhale. (Do it until the jealousy is gone).
Or we make Bioenergetic or EFT for Jealousy. If we can get help would be good. We apologize that we didn't trust.
How I have handled my Jealousy?
I was together with a girl, we went to a party, and she got in love with another guy. I felt humiliated and desperate. I repeated in my mind: I am a nobody, a nothing, (quote from Zen). I repeated this, again and again, until I felt it. Suddenly I went in a deep tremendous bliss and silent state. Jealousy was gone!
Our Ego wants that we are something, that we are special. So more humble we are so less suffering and so less jealousy.