Kindness is love made manifest. I believe that with all my heart. I believe it more the older I get. It can't be the sticky, put on kindness. It has to be connected to the HEART to be love made manifest.
Sounds right, doesn't it? Kindness is love made manifest.
Consistently EASY? Not generally for many of our clients.
All kinds of things get in the way. Physical pain, cognitive distortions and all the ways we think people SHOULD be inhibit heartfelt kindness.
Kindness is LOVE made manifest.
Isn't it worth it to consider and help our clients transcend the ways they inhibit kindness? The question I have found simplest is, "what's between you and kindness?"
We do have to be careful here not to encourage our clients to engage in the subtle aggression of self improvement. Without awareness of the difference between heartfelt kindness and put on kindness, some people may get caught up in thinking if only THEY change, people around them will change. That's dangerous territory if they are surrounded by people who could be toxic for one reason or another.
In this situation, like most, we can't really allow kindness to express itself in our relationships when our heart is not in the right place. So again, what's between you and your heart being in the right place?
There. Right there. That's where the conditioned self is at play. What a game of hide and seek! Once we spot it and lean into acceptance and integration, we are HOME. It's easy then to let kindness flow, love made manifest.
Do you talk with your clients about the impact and influence of the conditioned self?
PM me about spotting and ending the trance of the conditioned self. It will change the way you think about really HELPING people.
INTEGRATION TIPS: kind / unkind kind / insensitive genuinely kind / superficially kind