We are living in a world that supports a fixed identity and through that, we have lost the connection to our true self. The People are predictable and the society loves that.
We have to function in a certain way. After some time we have built up some habits that enslave ourselves.
Remember your childhood, you could easily see how the adults were habitual fixed in certain behaviors. You could forecast how every adult would behave in certain situations like a robot. Sure, it made your life easier and also boring. The Adults used always the same facial expressions and their faces were frozen in certain attitudes and could not change.
And your kid friends were full of life and the adults lived on a saving flame or without life.
What will your kids think of you? Maybe the same what you thought as a kid from the adults.
It is hard to overcome our own prison of our wrong identity. The worst thing is, that our identity got conditioned from our family and spouse.
Who are we?
Are we these wrong Identities?
Do we have a true Identity?
Can we change our identity?
Do we need an identity?
When I changed quite often my life philosophy, I always lost my spouse.
For our spouse, it is much easier when we would have a fixed identity. Because an identity means security and it is easier to calculate our behavior in advance. And our spouse can manipulate us much easier when we have a fixed identity.
Our environment wants robots and not human beings.
If we want to be free and happy our goal should be:
To live in the here and now.
To make always the best decision without that our belief system or subconsciousness is interfering.
To be a surprise to ourselves or others.
To be spontaneous like young kids.
To be creative instead of following the mass.
To be free from any identification or identity. Because an identity hinders us to be in the flow or to enjoy the here and now like the kids.